It’s been more than 2 weeks now since Liam started using this word and this really is giving me a lot to think about. Before I proceed I just want to be clear that am not trying to be righteous here. I myself use this word especially when am really infuriated. Dino and I grew up in households that uses these words (bad words) freely, use it when we’re angry and irritated (but not at each other or people we love). We also use them jokingly.
Anyway, this all started when Dino got startled and he shouted “Putang..” and stopped in the middle when he realized that it was Liam who was there. Liam quickly got it and said “Putang!”. Shocked, Dino told him not to say it again and that it’s a bad word. Since then, Liam
uses tries to use that word when he sees an opportunity.
One night, he was acting up and does not want to follow, he said “Putang!”, so the topic was changed for him not to say it again..
Lolo was playing with him and pinched him softly at the back..
Liam: Putang! Sakit!
Every time we’ll get mad, he will said: “Daddy said, putang!”, even if daddy did not say it..
There were already a lot of instances, and he at least say this once a day and daddy telling him not to say it anymore simply doesn’t work. I think, us telling him not to say it anymore elevates his curiosity about the term. So I tried to brainwash him and change the word..
Liam: Daddy said, Putang!
Mommy: No, daddy said, put a little more
This made him laugh and repeated the phrase, so I thought the deal is done. Oh boy, am I wrong, he still uses it. So one time I threatened him with a spank in the mouth (this really scares him)..
Mommy: Liam, stop saying that word or I will pah pah your mouth na
Liam: Daddy says Putang… (this is his go to phrase every time we tell him not to say it anymore, as if telling us how come daddy can say it?!? tsk! tsk!)
Mommy: I will also pah pah daddy if he says it again, do you understand?
I thought this worked since we did not hear him say it for 2 days. Then one time at the playground, kids are playing with the cement, they will put the cement on a plastic and throw it up in the air, making the cement burst in the air..
Liam: Mommy, what are they doing
Mommy: they are playing with the cement, but don’t do that anak, the cement will get into your eyes and it will be ouch ouch
Liam still watch them intently and suddenly shouted: “PUTANG!”
I almost hit his mouth right there, but I don’t want to do it in public since I don’t want to embarrass him in public. So I just give him a grin and told him that it’s not good to say that word. (Well, wala din naman nakarinig, since other kids are busy playing and the teens are chatting)
Now, he gives interest to all our expressions na like “Grabe!” and “Shocks!”. He will ask us if that’s a bad word or not.,, hayayayayay! me gulay!! Ano ba ito!?!? How do we explain “bad words” to a 3 year old toddler? This also strengthen my resolve to be watchful of what I say (well, I hope this is the same with Dino.. grrr..) Ang bilis na ng pick up nya. Sabi nga ni lola, “Parang recorder yang anak mo e”.
Hay naku anak, when you grow older, I will not forbid you to use this words… As long as you know what these words mean and you know the effect of using these words to others. You need to know when to use it and to whom should you use it and make sure that if you use it, it’s ok na masabihan ka din nun. Golden rule anak, okey?
Before I end this post, I’ve been asking my colleagues (matatalino kasi talaga sila, hehe) about studies regarding this (doing the forbidden) nature and here’s a good read about Reactance and Paradoxical Inversion (or what we usually call reverse psychology). This young, single office mates of mine are also the ones who pointed out to me just now that maybe am not consistent that’s why reverse psychology don’t work with Liam too. Or as the other one pointed out, sadyang bright ang anak ko!??! I like the latter better. 🙂