Rant: “Putang!”

It’s been more than 2 weeks now since Liam started using this word and this really is giving me a lot to think about.  Before I proceed I just want to be clear that am not trying to be righteous here.  I myself use this word especially when am really infuriated.  Dino and I grew up in households that uses these words (bad words) freely, use it when we’re angry and irritated (but not at each other or people we love). We also use them jokingly.

Anyway, this all started when Dino got startled and he shouted “Putang..” and stopped in the middle when he realized that it was Liam who was there.  Liam quickly got it and said “Putang!”.  Shocked, Dino told him not to say it again and that it’s a bad word.  Since then, Liam  uses tries to use that word when he sees an opportunity.

Opportunity #1:
One night, he was acting up and does not want to follow, he said “Putang!”, so the topic was changed for him not to say it again..

Opportunity #2:
Lolo was playing with him and pinched him softly at the back..
Liam:  Putang! Sakit!

Opportunity #3:
Every time we’ll get mad, he will said: “Daddy said, putang!”, even if daddy did not say it..

There were already a lot of instances, and he at least say this once a day and daddy telling him not to say it anymore simply doesn’t work. I think, us telling him not to say it anymore elevates his curiosity about the term.  So I tried to brainwash him and change the word..

Liam:  Daddy said, Putang!
Mommy: No, daddy said, put a little more

This made him laugh and repeated the phrase, so I thought the deal is done.  Oh boy, am I wrong, he still uses it. So one time I threatened him with a spank in the mouth (this really scares him)..

Mommy:  Liam, stop saying that word or I will pah pah your mouth na
Liam:  Daddy says Putang… (this is his go to phrase every time we tell him not to say it anymore, as if telling us how come daddy can say it?!? tsk! tsk!)
Mommy:  I will also pah pah daddy if he says it again, do you understand?
Liam:  yes

I thought this worked since we did not hear him say it for 2 days. Then one time at the playground, kids are playing with the cement, they will put the cement on a plastic and throw it up in the air, making the cement burst in the air..
Liam:  Mommy, what are they doing
Mommy:  they are playing with the cement, but don’t do that anak, the cement will get into your eyes and it will be ouch ouch
Liam still watch them intently and suddenly shouted:  “PUTANG!”

I almost hit his mouth right there, but I don’t want to do it in public since I don’t want to embarrass him in public.  So I just give him a grin and told him that it’s not good to say that word.  (Well, wala din naman nakarinig, since other kids are busy playing and the teens are chatting)

Now, he gives interest to all our expressions na like “Grabe!” and “Shocks!”.  He will ask us if that’s a bad word or not.,, hayayayayay! me gulay!! Ano ba ito!?!? How do we explain “bad words” to a 3 year old toddler?  This also strengthen my resolve to be watchful of what I say (well, I hope this is the same with Dino.. grrr..)  Ang bilis na ng pick up nya.  Sabi nga ni lola, “Parang recorder yang anak mo e”.

Hay naku anak, when you grow older, I will not forbid you to use this words…  As long as you know what these words mean and you know the effect of using these words to others.  You need to know when to use it and to whom should you use it and make sure that if you use it, it’s ok na masabihan ka din nun. Golden rule anak, okey?

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Before I end this post, I’ve been asking my colleagues (matatalino kasi talaga sila, hehe) about studies regarding this (doing the forbidden) nature and here’s a good read about Reactance and Paradoxical Inversion (or what we usually call reverse psychology).  This young, single office mates of mine are also the ones who pointed out to me just now that maybe am not consistent that’s why reverse psychology don’t work with Liam too. Or as the other one pointed out, sadyang bright ang anak ko!??! I like the latter better. 🙂

Setting Limits

I really don’t know how to start this post.  But I want this out of my chest.  I’ve been on a guilt streak these past few days.  I feel I don’t do as much as i should for Liam (learning wise) and for the past few days, Liam cries everyday since we feel that we need to start disciplining him. The latter really breaks my heart.

Dino and I don’t have a very strict parenting style and is permissive at times.  I always see Liam as a baby and I always think that he don’t know that he is hurting us (physically) when he is being super likot or it is not good to eat too much sweets.  I think he is in a stage now where he is testing his powers or should I say testing OUR limits.  There are times where I really want to shake him until he finally listens to us.  But syempre di ko kayang gawin sakanya un no!?

What works right now (for him to listen and follow) is when we start raising our voices or when I will ask him if he wants me to spank him. These styles make him realize that we are serious and angry already.  He don’t like us getting angry at him.   These worries me. I don’t know if tama na mag worry ako.  I don’t want to shout at him everyday and always threat him with spanking that until one day, he’ll not be scared of it anymore.  Ma-immune na sya sa style na yan.

Another guilt issue I have past few days was in teaching Liam.  Liam is a very bright and observant kid.  He learned ABC and 123 even before he turned 1.  He memorized all the colors and shapes (pati pentagon at hexagon) at 18 mos. old.  And he knows some of the antonyms na like big and small, up and down, etc.  All these learning naman never directly came from me, usually sa mga toys and video clips I download for him.

Lately, I feel that he is not learning new things na and most of the time we just play around the house. Even if I want to sit down with him to teach him new stuff like reading sight words and writing, he doesn’t like it. Instead he wants to play and fool around lang. Well, these past few days, he likes jumping and falling around the house like Wipe Out!! Another wrong move from mommy, we are watching Wipeout one night which caught his attention and he asked for 2 consecutive days about it. Being the permissive mommy that I am, I downloaded a few episodes and saved it in his tablet!! Oh no!! yes, oh no! talaga!   (will be deleting it today, as instructed by daddy)

Anyway, I already made resolutions about this learning issue. I just hope that I will be very religious about it.  Will share it na lang if I have started it na and if I can follow it through.   Well, I knew the answer all along, di lang talaga ako nag-iisip minsan.  I just think too much at times, that I tend to overlook Liam’s way of learning.  I forgot that he don’t really participate at first, he observes and once he knows na, then, he participates and leads. 🙂

Haaaay, now I truly believe that motherhood/parenthood is a whole lot of work and napaka-hirap talaga. Unlike sa work, if you don’t like your job na, then resign and find a new one.  If may mali sa mga staff, pagalitan mo or palitan mo.   If plans did not work out, ok lang. Business will still go on.  Saludo talaga ako sa mga Full time mom, and sa mga super hands-on na mommies.

One tip I read from other blogs is to take a deep breath when you know that you are at the edge of breaking (shouting and spanking), count and pray. This really works!! Mommies may have big hearts but we also are only human.  Nawawala din sa sarili paminsan.. hehe

Am really praying hard that God will give me enough wisdom to guide Liam and to bless us with boundless patience.

See how we are? Am already pointing my fingers telling him what not to do, and he gives me a big smile.. oh my my..
See how we are? Am already pointing my fingers telling him what not to do, and he gives me a big smile.. oh my my..

On a lighter note, here’s how our conversation goes at times..
Liam was acting up and not eating his breakfast properly, we tried to persuade him with mellow voices to no avail..
Mommy (with an angry voice):  Liam, eat your bread or mommy will pah pah (spank) you
Liam looked at me with a sweet smile (that melted my heart), sat beside me and lean his head on my arms
M (trying not to smile and laugh and hug him): No, you have to eat
L then took a bite on his bread and said:  Mommy, are you happy na?
M: Yes (with a smile)
L start acting up again…
L: Mommy, are you happy?
M (with a serious voice): no, mommy is not happy
L:  waaaaah (cried out loud with big tears and a sad face reached for me and hugged)

Ohhh my my my. How can I start to discipline you when you are being so sweet and so adorable and so sensitive like you are.  Hay, anak if you are reading this, maybe you are laughing at this, but I want you to know, this laughing matter is worrying me so much that I want to cry at times. Pero always remember that mommy and daddy are striving to be the best parents for you.  We may not be right at all times or the best compared to other parents out there, but we pray that in your eyes we are the best.  We love you, anak! 🙂

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Herpangina

Last July 25, before going to office, I noticed that Liam is a bit feverish. Instructed Donna not to give him bath and to do sponge bath lang muna.  Texted our pedia to consult if need medicine, she advised sponge bath as well and no paracetamol muna.  I also instructed them not to go to school anymore, but Liam cried as he wants to go to school, so off to school the went.

After an hour, I got a call from the pre-school head mistress telling me that she sent Liam home already, as he was very matamlay and not participating anymore.

After lunch, I instructed Donna to shut the windows since it was raining and raindrops are going through the window. after a few minutes, I got a call from Ate Lilia, my heart almost stopped as Liam had a seizure.  Oh Freak!! I really did not know what to do. As if it’s not enough that am super worried and crying, it was traffic going home. I really wanted to jump out of the car and run home.

When we got home, Liam was still crying but he was better, as Ate Lilia knew what to do.  She put ice pack on Liam’s head so that his fever will go down.  Some of our neighbors were also in there to help, massaging Liam’s arms, holding towel on his forehead while the other one is washing the other cloth.  (Yeah, our yaya almost went crazy when she saw Liam’s lip turned blue, eyes rolling and salivating mouth, she shouted at the top of her lungs, making all our neighbors come – which am also thankful for).

He stopped crying after he realized it was mommy carrying him...
He stopped crying after he realized it was mommy carrying him… Daddy not knowing what else to do, took a pic instead to keep his sanity… Mommy is still crying non-stop..
after a few more minutes with the TV on..
after a few more minutes with the TV on..

After his fever was contained, Dino and I decided to see his pedia.  This time stars are on our side, as doctora have an afternoon clinic that day. Her usual clinic hours is only upto 2pm.  That day, she decided to have late afternoon check up.  She prescribed paracetamol already and taught us the right way of giving sponge bath! Kow! mali pala ang punas punas lang and it should be every 30 mins as long as your patient’s fever is high.  Haist, I feel so tanga that time.. kakaiyak lang..

When we got home, we gave him a sponge bath and paracetamol.   I think he felt a lot better after this, kasi he was playing around and very active again even with a fever. We were not able to take pic na kasi we were just happy that he is feeling better.

No sleep for me that night and the following night, as i kept on checking his temp and sponged him even in his sleep.  The next day, he kept on complaining that his mouth is ouch ouch. We also noticed that he is having a hard time to swallow.  So we decided to visit his pedia again, though he was all active na and acting like himself already, a mommy wants to be doubly sure.  Besides, his temperature is not yet normal. I also thought that it was tonsillitis causing his ouchy thought.

While waiting for his turn, Liam found a new friend.. :)
While waiting for his turn, Liam found a new friend.. 🙂

I also realized na there is nothing wrong sa pagiging sigurista at praning ng mga nanay.  When doctora saw me sitting at the waiting area, she asked me how Liam was and I told her that I think Liam may have tonsillitis. She laughed at me and said that kids his age don’t experience tonsilitis pa.  ooops… So what is it?!?!

Herpangina is an acute, virally induced, self-limited illness often seen in young children during the summer months. Affected children usually complain of mouth sores and fever. It is caused by a number of viruses, all part of the enterovirus family, coxsackievirus being the most common. Most children develop a high fever and complain of a sore throat. They then develop vesicles (blisters) or ulcers (sores) at the back of the throat and palate (called an enanthem). Children, especially younger children, may refuse to eat or drink because of the pain and are at risk for developing signs and symptoms of dehydration. (source: http://www.medicinenet.com/herpangina/article.htm)

Good thing, Liam was cooperative that day and showed his throat to doc.  Doc saw the blister near his throat that’s causing the ouchies.  As per Doc, there is no cure for this infection and that it will heal by itself in 4 days.  “ok lng paliguan yan” she says.  And what’s good with these viral infections is that when we have them, our systems form anti-bodies that we need to fight other viruses pa.  Na when the time comes an you will meet this virus again, di ka na talaban, kasi may antibody ka na to defend you.  Oh diba!?!? Ang galing!! may natutunan pa ko. 🙂

a proof that he is all better na..
a proof that he is all better na..

Am just so glad that he is all better. It was also a relief to know that it’s nothing serious and that it’s normal for kids his age to have this.  Pero ang seizure!! kow! Sa dami daming pwedeng manahin sa tatay at lolo nya.. hehehe.. I really pray na di na mangyari ulit un.

By the way, since am in the health section na din, I saw this FB post from my friend about vaccines that are not good for kids.  What do you think about that1?!? Praning mode nanaman ang nanay!! kaloka lang!!

 

No Gadget Nights

For past 3 months, we have successfully implemented the “no gadget (on bed) rule”.  This does not only applies to Liam but to me and Dino as well. hehehe. We are trying to minimize Liam’s tablet usage and noticed that he’s ok not to use his tablets as long as we play with him. I realized that it’s not really the gadget, it’s our lack of time din and attention at night that causes him to watch and play on his tablet.

Don’t get me wrong, we do play with him naman, pero we allowed him to play gadgets kasi at night before we go to sleep.  Liam is a good boy naman na when it’s time to sleep he will cooperate and turn off his tablet.  But there were also episodes that he wants to watch his videos until he falls asleep.

With all the studies on effects of gadgets in kids nowadays, we really decided to limit his usage.  Though am not pro to zero gadgets.  I believe that parents still should control what they are watching (on tv or tablet) and playing.  It’s due to his tablet that he learned ABC, 123, colors, talking and singing as well. So, I really won’t totally eliminate gadgets.  Controlled lang dapat.

Anyway, here’s what we’ve been up to before our bedtime.

Pillow fight with Daddy.. whew! buti nlgn with Daddy.. :)
Pillow fight with Daddy.. whew! buti nlgn with Daddy.. 🙂
Hide and seek... can you find where Liam is?
Hide and seek… can you find where Liam is?
Hide and Seek again.. di ko talaga sya mahanap.. hehehe
Hide and Seek again.. di ko talaga sya mahanap.. hehehe
read his favorite books.. may props pa na eyeglass...
read his favorite books.. may props pa na eyeglass…
play Throw..
play Throw..
.. and catch
.. and catch
isa pa palang hide and seek.. using blankets this time..
isa pa palang hide and seek.. using blankets this time..
take pictures with Shine (the yellow car) and Doggy.
take pictures with Shine (the yellow car) and Doggy.

I just can’t find the photos, but we also played with marbles, stacking cups and a lot of other toys depending on Liam’s mood.  T But the sweetest of all is when we turn the lights off and Liam would come to us for a goodnight kiss.  Ang sweet no!?

.. and with the whole family.. ; )
my sweet little boy 

Oh well, I think it’s doing us a lot of good naman as this is more bonding time for us. 🙂

 

 

On Why We Love Ate Donna

The other day, we promised Liam that we will go home early, true to our words, we left office exactly 5:30.. and this video is what we went home to. Donna is teaching Liam how to count 1 to 100 without us telling her to do so.

In one of my recent posts, I’ve mentioned being thankful having Donna as Liam’s yaya. She may not be the best out there and may have some shortcomings too. But in general, you can feel her love and concern for Liam. Paano ko nasabi yun?!?!

Before Liam even started his school this year, I think Saturday ito before Liam’s first day..

Donna: Ate, kelan nga po ulit ung Linggo ng Wika?
Me: Sa August pa yun.
Donna: Yung bookworm po?
Me: Ahh.. parang October ata un or November?
Donna: Kasya pa siguro ung Spiderman costume ni Liam no? Sana suotin na nya..
Me: Waah! mainit un! ayaw ko na pasuot saknya un!
Donna: Sa bagay….

See!!?? It’s still July and there are still 2 days before school officially start, she’s already worried about what will her alaga wear for the school programs. hahahahaha

Meron pa yan.. All students are supposed to bring their required supplies which should be labeled one by one on second day of school. While I have already bought all of Liam’s stuff, am procrastinating labeling. so Monday night comes..

Donna: Ate, nakaprint na po kayo sticker ni Liam
Me: ‘di pa, hayaan mo na, late nlng naten padala mga gamit nya
Donna: ok po (with a sad face)

Donna: Ate, need din pala ng story book sa school
Me: Ayaw ko nga pamigay mga books nya
Donna: Kahit ung pinaka luma na lang po..
Me: Ayaw ko nga.. binili ko yun para kay Liam, di para sa school.
Donna: Nagbabasa basa na po kasi sila sa school, sya lang walang dala…

Following day…
Me: Dons, eto na stickers, eto pa ung mga kulang na gamit. At eto na ung libro na dadalhin nya.. ikaw na mag label.
Donna: ok po.. (with a wide smile, sabay lipat sa room nya to do all the labeling..
Aba! kinalimutan na di pa naligo alaga nya!!

There are more of these stories, baka mapuno ang post ko. Basta, we are really thankful that we got her to be Liam’s yaya. She may have shortcomings but her love for Liam is all worth shrugging those lapses off.. 🙂

Shocked and Speechless

Last night, while playing with Liam, he stepped on my legs and he slipped intentionally…

Mommy (with a loud voice): OUCH!! Liam! Please stop stepping on mommies legs!

Liam (with a loud voice too): DON’T SHOUT!

WHOAH!!!! Did my son just scold me?  How do I react to that!?? I was caught off guard and didn’t know what to say. But Dino and the yaya were laughing at the incident, while Liam was hugging me..  Dino, realizing he needs to do something..

Daddy (changed to serious tone):  Liam, say sorry to mommy..

Liam: Sorry Mommy..

Mommy:  Sorry too, Mommy won’t shout anymore, but you have to stop stepping on us. ok?

Liam: OK..

Then we all laughed again..

Haaay.. tell me, how do you react to a 2 year old boy scolding his mommy?

This was taken while waiting for Luisa's party to start..
This was taken while waiting for Luisa’s party to start..

Do You Want Your Kid to be a Bully?

Ever since I got pregnant with Liam, I’ve always wanted him to be a bully.  I know bad mommy ako for thinking that. But here’s my defense and logic to that:  “Better that he’s the one bullying other kids, rather than him being bullied around by other kids.” O diba? May rason naman?!

These past few days was an eye opener for me.  I know. I know! Liam is only 2 and many things are still about to change. But still, this thought is bugging me.  Anyway, I realized that Liam is mabait. He is generous and di pala-away.  Which am really proud of.  But there is this little scary voice inside me that’s not letting me sleep for quite a few nights now.   I worry that he might be bullied around in school if di na nya kasama yaya nya sa room. I don’t want him coming home crying, or become an introvert or matraumatize dahil lang sa mga bully na bata no! (Blame this thought to stories I heard and read.. haaay)

Last week, a friend of mine came to visit me, and she brought her daughter, Hannah, along so Liam can play with her.  Liam was still having his afternoon nap when they arrived.  So when Liam saw Hannah, she was already at home playing, running and riding Liam’s new bike.  I thought Liam would cry or ask for his bike. Instead, he smiled and rode his green motorbike and played with Hannah.  This is when I realized my son is mabait.

What made me worry was while playing with their balloons, Hannah suddenly grabbed the one his playing with.  He was shocked at the action, but did not cry nor get the balloon back from her, kahit gusto nya ung balloon.  I was worried kasi am afraid that Liam don’t know how to fight for what he wants? OA ba ang reaction ko. I also think so, pero I can’t help it.

Later on, Hannah decided to ride his green motorbike naman. This time, Liam grabbed my hand, as if asking me to take his bike back and he was on the bridge of crying.  So I consoled him telling him that Hannah is just borrowing his bike.  I think he didn’t agree with me, cause in his own way, he said:  “Hana, rayd duwan.” (Hannah, ride other one while he points to his red bike).  Medyo proud moment ko ‘to as he was able to express himself.

The other day naman, while Liam is riding his rented Car Cart in SM, a 4yr old kid suddenly approached him and hit him on the chest.  Liam did not cry, I don’t think ganun din kalakas un. Pero I was shocked.  Liam ignored him lang and continued driving his car.  Donna even cried kasi sya daw ang nasaktan para kay Liam.

I, on the other hand, got so mad at the action, not at the kid (by the way, I think the older kid has a little psych problem, so I don’t really think it’s his fault).  I thought parents should be teaching their kids or if they already know their child have tendencies to hit other kids, they always need to be alert.  I know di naman maiiwasan that parents want their kids to be exposed, to enjoy din kahit pa ba may problem ung bata e.  Pero they need to be on the look out lagi.  Gusto ba nila sa kanila mangyari un? For their kids to be hurt by others? haaaay…

Anyway, with all these incidents, here are my realizations:

  1. Liam is a good kid.
  2. Liam knows how to fight for what he wants, we just have to motivate him to continue doing so.
  3. Dino and I are doing something right.  The fact that Liam don’t spank other kids, or grab other’s toys and doesn’t fight back when he was hit, means he is not exposed to violence.  He don’t even know what spanking is.  We never tried to spank him nor threat him with spanking.
  4. I don’t really want Liam to be a bully.  Ayaw ko rin ng sakit sa ulo. hehe
  5. I just want Liam to learn to defend for himself when he is older.   Huwag magpa-agrabyado sa iba.

Well, am happy with my realizations for now.  Makes my worries less and gives me better goals.  hehehe … I know we have a long way to go pa.  Kaya I will always pray pa din for God to guide us for the years to come.

Oh by the way, here’s a pic of Liam on his red bike. (A Birthday gift from Ninang Tita and Lola Ninang)

Liam: “Can we buy this please?”

Anak, if you are reading this now, you might not be the same as what am describing above. Nonetheless, you are still well loved and we respect you for who you are and who you will be.   Eto naman e sa ngayong 2 years old ka pa lang.   Daddy and Mommy will always be proud of you whoever or whatever you choose to be.

 

PS:  These are just my thoughts.. Others may think otherwise..

Contentment Part 2

Been meaning to write this follow up post for a while now. Well, some thoughts pop up in my mind that need clarifications. Kung di lang nasira laptop ko.. hehehehe

Well, first question I realized with my previous post was – What if we’ll have our second baby na? Will that mean I won’t be contented having 2? and ask for 3rd pa? (batok abot ko kay Dino nyan… hehe) Oh well, I’ll be contented on having 2. BUT!! (yes, there’s a but) will we just stop at being contented on having 2 kids? NO! we will strive harder to be the best parents we can be. Maybe not the best for others, but good enough to guide our kids to grow up the best they can be. Enough for them to respect and look back at their childhood with warmth in their hearts.

Another question that pops to mind, at dahil nga late ang post ko, Dino raised this too – Does it mean I’m not contended with Dino.  As I said in my previous post, am very thankful and blessed to have him as my husband. Pero, should we stop at having each other? NO! We will always work hard and do our best to grow and make our relationship stronger mentally, spiritually, financially, sexually and all the other -ly’s there is pa.

Ang point ko lang, I will always endeavor to do the best I can for the betterment of all. Lalo na pag pamilya ko na ang involve.

BOW!

Am Back!!

 

After 2 weeks of no Laptop.. Am back with my new HP ENVY 4..

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well, my company laptop was dead and no chance for revival.. So decided to buy a new one.. on Loan.. hehehehe..

Loving it.. 🙂

With my fingers crossed, hope that my new unit (company use) will be approved and released soon…

Dreams

One of my 2012 resolution is to read at least ONE book a month. Yes! you read it right, at least one lang. That’s how bad a reader I am. hehehe..

Pero since I want to instill reading kay Liam, I want and need to read myself.  Well, di naman talaga Zero reading. Di lang hard core reader.  I read newspapers, Reader’s Digest, Self Help Books and novels, basta my Sister recommends it, basa ako. Pero I stopped reading newspaper when I was pregnant with Liam.  Kakalungkot lang ang mga news dito sa Pinas. hehe

Anyway, I’m writing this post to share what am reading right now.  I joined Bo Sanchez’s Truly Rich Club a couple of years ago and I got some free E-books from him. Forgot about it na nga, until I checked my tablet and nalipat ko pala dun mga books nya. 🙂

I like Bo Sanchez’s way of writing. Easy read yet you’ll learn a lot. He has his funny ways of writing too, kaya di boring. 🙂

First of his book I read was “8 Secrets of the Truly Rich”. This is when I started to learn how to save properly. Though, di ko sinasabing perfect na ang savings ways ko. hehe.. Pero this helped me a lot to realize what to prioritize and how to do it.

Currently, am reading his “How to Conquer your Goliaths”.  Here he shares that there are “7 Keys to a Champion’s Life”.  Will share it next post, as I stopped at Chapter 3.  Tell you why later.

He started this book with a short story. He retold Bible’s famous story: David and Goliath. But he did it in a way na he was able to emphasize how David focused on his Dream to get the reward that was promised and how he trusted God in defeating Goliath.

Second part of the book, this is where he elaborates the 7 keys he  mentioned.  I stopped after the third chapter, where he said that we need to repeat our dreams to ourselves every single day. He mentioned that years back, he wrote down all his dreams and everyday after that, he read it during his prayer time. He prays for it everyday.

I stopped reading the book cause I want to create my own dream book first before I carry on reading. I know naman what my dreams are – having our own house and lot, to be able to travel around world with my family and a lot more.. But I want to elaborate and be specific. Like how Bo explained it in the book. here are some of my notes…

  • Dreams bigger than one’s self – dreams that you are willing you’re passionate about the you are willing to die for it
  • Specific dreams – to be more specific about what you are dreaming about. what kind of house, what will the house be for. etc. etc.
  • Ok to be self-oriented as long as it’s not purely self oriented
  • Focus on the dream and not the Giant – don’t let one problem stop you from reaching your dream (in the book, he compared this with David focusing on the reward and not on Goliath)
  • Repeat the dream to yourself again and again – I will also include this in my daily prayer and maybe edit it along the way.

Oh well, will end this here and start with my dream book. By the way, he also suggested that if you’re not good with words, you may also make a picture out of your dreams (pwede ring collage diba!?) As creative as you can be. Effort kung effort, after all this is your future you’re preparing for. 🙂